The Pain of Regret


Regret is a funny thing. While we understand how much it hurts in the moment, we’re not always great at connecting to how much we’ll regret something in the future.

Maybe you indulge in certain foods frequently and after a few months go by feel frustrated that your body doesn’t look and feel how you want it to…

Maybe you go on a shopping spree only to feel terrible later because you should have put that money toward something more important to you…

Maybe you have a whole day to get your life organized but instead waste the day watching Netflix and are bummed down the road that you’re not making progress in achieving your goals…

Can you relate to this?

Now, before you beat yourself up about not being able to act according to what will be best for your future self, know that you’re not alone. Most people have trouble making choices that will benefit them in the future. And when it comes to love, get this… it’s why there are a lot of unhealthy, unhappy people in the world. So it’s a very good thing that you are the smart and savvy woman that you are. You know that what you do now creates your future.

When it comes to love, there is a direct link between the attention you give to attracting soulmate love now and how awesome or lonely your love life will be in the future.

Which makes total sense, right?

And yet, you might be hesitant to invest in yourself and in pursuing the life and love that you long to live. Let me tell you, girlfriend, there is always going to be something that will hold you back from going after what you really want. Money, time, stories about ‘the way things are.’

And you know what? Many women hold onto those excuses and justifications their entire lives. They say they want to meet the man of their dreams but don’t give that part of their life the attention that it needs to flourish and grow and make that possible. So they don’t meet him and miss out on a lifetime of love and happiness with their soulmate by their side.

Of course that’s not a regret that you want to have. You deserve to spend your time with someone who lights up your life. With a love that makes your toes curl and your heart sing.

You’ll probably get over most of your other regrets but not going for love is one that will stay with you for a very long time. Quite possibly the rest of your life. Ouch. You don’t want that, do you?

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”
Erica Jong, Fear of Flying


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  1. Holly said: February 22, 2017 at 8:03 am

    Thanks a lot 🙂 🙂 Thanks for the men of quality series and regular emails. You are so nice

    • Dr. Lara Fernandez said: March 2, 2017 at 12:10 pm

      Glad you enjoyed them! 😉

  2. Esther said: February 21, 2017 at 11:03 am

    Thank you…

    • Dr. Lara Fernandez said: February 21, 2017 at 4:05 pm


  3. Ann said: February 21, 2017 at 10:46 am

    Thank you Johnny and Lara. I watched the Men of Quality Series and joined the Quantum Leap to Love program. Being in the right frame is important to me so I can be present when I do meet that wonderful man. So looking forward to experiencing what Love with a quality Man is all about.

    • Dr. Lara Fernandez said: February 21, 2017 at 4:08 pm

      Congratulations! That is so wonderful Ann, we’re excited to have you. 🙂

  4. Cynthia said: February 21, 2017 at 10:42 am

    It is not that i was. Hesitation i wanted the program but not everyone has the funds readily available to purchase the program.

    • Dr. Lara Fernandez said: February 21, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      We understand. We wish you all the best, when things turn around for you, we’re here. In the meantime…keep reading our blog and learning as much as you can!